Stop Worrying Exercise


The Wednesday before last Wednesday I covered what to do instead of worrying, referring to Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living.”

Today, I will review the act of writing it down because worrying is not a set-it-and-forget-it phenomena.

“[G]o into action. Don’t stop to reconsider. Don’t begin to hesitate, worry and retrace your steps. Don’t lose yourself in self-doubting which begets other doubts . Don’t keep looking back over your shoulder.”

From Carnegie to you, here is a brief exercise. Pen in your answers to each:
1. What am I worrying about?
2. What can I do about it?
3. Here is what I am going to do about it.
4. When am I going to start doing it?

G.I. Joe, the cartoon, once upon a time stated, “Knowing is half the battle.” This is true.


Willfull Well-being Wednesdays: What to do Instead of Worrying

According to the Dale Carnegie book I covered last Wednesday, you can do more to worry less. Aristotle taught this and used the three basic steps of problem analysis.

The three steps are:
1. Get the facts
2. Analyze the facts.
3. Arrive at a decision— and then act on that decision

1. Get the facts
We have to keep our emotions out of our thinking; and, as Dean Hawkes put it, we must secure the facts in “an impartial, objective” manner.
A. Then Pretend:
Pretend that you are  collecting this information not for yourself, but for some other person.

Pretend that you are a lawyer preparing to argue the other side of the issue. Try to get all the facts of both sides.

2. Analyze the facts. Ask yourself two things:
A.  What am I worrying about?
B. What can I do about it?

3. Arrive at a decision— and then act on that decision

Willful Well-being Wednesdays: Accept It and Don’t Worry About A Thing…

I started reading Dale Carnegie’s “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” as a part of my personal plan to well-being. I am a sucker for self-help books.

One thing that impacted me so far is Carnegie’s application of Willis H. Carrier’s magic formula, that worrying less means accepting what could be the worst so that you can concentrate on what is in front of you:  “[A]cceptance of what has happened is the first step in overcoming the consequences of any misfortune…when we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means— we have everything to gain.” Now, that is perspective. Accept the worst, so you can move forward. Many great things happen with the power of acceptance. Your mind is no longer stuck in a cloud of could have, should have, would have. You are present to live today.

This does not mean moving on, detached in a haphazard, emotional way, but it means to resolve the worry, change how you reacted, improve upon yourself, and move forward. None of this dwelling that keeps you stuck.

Are you ready to accept the worst?

1. Ask yourself, “What is the worst that can possibly happen?”
2. Prepare to accept it if you have to
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst